23 Feb, 2021
PARENTING & BEYOND
Parenting is a practice as old as the human race itself. It is rightly said, ‘Parenting is a human instinct’. The fact is that there are no predefined rules for parenting. Parenting varies from family to family, depending a lot on the social upbringing and the social status of the Parents, the cultural background and values and the time period they are living in.
It has been observed that parenting has changed with changing times and the ever changing social and cultural norms. The parenting style of nineties may not suit in the current century.
If we were to define parenting in simple words, ‘The objective of all styles of parenting is to support your offspring physically, emotionally and socially to ensure complete development both intellectually and as a person from infancy to adulthood’.
Whatever is your social class, type of family joint or nuclear or your cultural values, you certainly are doing great as parents.
Parenting is a journey, which you are supposed to enjoy as your child grows and you grow as Parents along with them. Some are also of the opinion that ‘Parenting is reliving your childhood’. Without an iota of doubt I can say all parents do their possible best when it comes to parenting.
Parenting is relatively a new verb because it is not something you do out of compulsion; rather you do it happily as it is your responsibility of rearing your child.
Parenting is basically asking yourself certain not so comfortable questions, answering them and then evolving and growing to be better both as parents and as a person. This is very important as children do not learn from what we teach them, rather they learn from who you are.
With the changing socio – economic environment the concept of Parenting also seems to have changed. We as parents want to give the best to our child, but in turn also expect them to be the best in all respect in comparison to any other kid. This being applicable to every Parent, the obvious outcome is that the child is under tremendous pressure to perform and that too even before the child has barely learnt to walk, run or express!
In effect when you as parents say your child is stubborn and does not respond the way you want him or her to do, it is actually you who is becoming stubborn and want your child to behave like you, i.e. an adult, which the child neither understands nor want to do.
I do not intend to blame the parents for expecting too much from their child because tghey are right from their point of view. But, this may not be always true. I have come across various parents struggling in bringing up their child.
There are professionals who can help them out of these difficult situations. They could guide you and help you in adapting the best method that could help both you as a parent and also the child in enjoying his/her childhood. I would suggest one should not shy away from consulting the expert for getting useful guidance.
Mastermind school is organizing one such program, ‘Workshop on Parenting and Beyond’ on the 3rd of April 2021 from 7 PM. The workshop will be conducted by Mrs. Sheetal Chauhan, a Professional Counselor cum Mentor. The proceedings would be live on Facebook.